The mixed emotions of caregiving leave many family caregivers in turmoil. And a recent Home Instead Senior Care network survey paints a clearer picture of the angst that so many caregivers experience.
Nearly 74% of family caregivers who hide their feeling sare overwhelmed, but that same percent of caregivers also feel loved. And the list goes on: 70% feel frustrated while 73% feel appreciated; 64% fee; anxious while the same number of caregivers feels satisfied.
Two attributes that set caregiving apart are the intensity of caregiving situations and the lack of planning that generally precipitates the need for care. “With a child there’s nine months to prepare, but with caregiving there’s usually a phone call to say a loved one is in need of help,” says caregiving expert Dr. Amy D’Aprix.
Dr. D’Aprix offers these tips to help caregivers overcome the anxiety of the unexpected need for caregiving.
1. Look at your situational concern.
What can you control. If you dad is diabetic, you can control the food you service and your attitude about his condition. What you cannot control is what he eats. Other common worries are, “What if my dad dies first? What will I do with Mom?” those are things you can’t control, so try to not to worry until they happen.
2. Have an outlet.
You need someone you can talk with who is nonjudgmental and not a family member- someone with whom to vent. Find it in a friend or caregiver support group.
3. Recognize your limitations.
Be realistic about what you can do. Too many family caregivers bite off more than they can chew. Set priorities and get help when needed.
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